103 — Follow the Gender-brick Road: from Bi to Pan to Trans
Gender: A Wider Lens
Sasha Ayad and Stella O'Malley
4.6 • 961 Ratings
🗓️ 24 February 2023
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
Many young people who first claim to be bisexual will later identify as pansexual and then trans. Sasha and Stella discuss this common but contemporary pathway to trans identification and analyze why this might be happening and what it could mean subconsciously. They offer parents some ideas for how to engage their child during this time of exploration.
Sasha and Stella both have parent coaching membership sites that offer an expansive catalog of resources curated to support and empower parents of gender-questioning teens and young adults. Depending on the membership level, you have access to full-length in-depth topic videos, articles, book recommendations, and live Q&A sessions.
Links:
Sasha Ayad’s Parent Coaching Membership Group (SubscribeStar)
https://www.subscribestar.com/sashalpc
Stella O’Malley’s Parent Coaching Membership Group (Substack)
https://stellaomalley.substack.com/
Sasha & Stella’s Conversation with Helena:
Helena Part I: Social Justice, Fandoms & FTM Gay Boys
Helena Part II: Advice for Parents from a Former Trans Kid
Sasha & Stella's Conversation w/ Lisa Duval:
Upcoming GETA Webinars
https://genderexploratory.com/events/
Albert Ellis’s REPT philosophies, and The Three Basic Musts
https://www.rebtnetwork.org/whatis.html
If you liked this episode, more episodes you might find interesting:
- Episode 1 — Trans: Identity vs Dysphoria https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/trans-identity-vs-dysphoria
- Episode 2 — Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria. https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/rapid-onset-gender-dysphoria
- Episode 32 — Stereotypes https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/32-stereotypes
- Episode 35 — Communicating About Gender: Translating Between Parent & Child. https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/35-translations
- Episode 39 — Nonbinary Identities
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Stella O'Malley, a psychotherapist in Ireland. |
| 0:05.0 | And I'm Sasha Iad, an adolescent therapist in the United States. |
| 0:09.0 | Through in-depth interviews, personal stories, and psychological exploration, we probe the gender landscape within contemporary culture. |
| 0:18.0 | And we consider the implications of prioritizing personal identity over other aspects of the self. |
| 0:25.0 | This is the thinking person's take on gender. |
| 0:28.0 | Join us as we look at gender from a wider lens. |
| 0:32.0 | Hello lovely to see you, Miss. a wider lens. |
| 0:35.6 | Hello lovely to see you Miss Stella. Hello there my darling. |
| 0:38.6 | It's it's great to be having an episode together where you and I are chatting. |
| 0:43.6 | I always think that's really, it feels like we're back home. |
| 0:47.0 | Yeah, no, I love these episodes. |
| 0:49.1 | It's really engaging and interesting and they always go in fun directions but but before we get to that what is going on in the life of Stella O'Malley? |
| 0:58.0 | Loads, loads, so much so my head is spinning. I think what's really I suppose really on my mind at the moment is me and you and |
| 1:07.8 | Lisa Marchiano are finishing the edits of our book and the edits the book, I know. Let me use our cool sound effects. Hold on. Can you say that again? |
| 1:18.9 | Okay, we're coming to the close of the edits of our book. |
| 1:23.5 | Oh, crap. |
| 1:24.1 | I can't find it next time. |
| 1:25.8 | All right, imagine there's clapping. |
| 1:27.4 | Woo! |
| 1:28.6 | Okay. |
| 1:29.6 | So it's a very interesting time because I think I'd say editors don't like me because when I get the, I've had a few books, I've written a few books and when I get the edits I input a lot. |
| 1:40.8 | Well I think I'm meant to only kind of do little bits and pieces. I'm like oh no this would be much better and I actually just so you know such I moved an entire chapter of mine from one place to another. |
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