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Counselling Tutor

103 – Attachment Styles

Counselling Tutor

Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes

Education, Courses

4.6 β€’ 636 Ratings

πŸ—“οΈ 16 February 2019

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

Future of Counselling Qualifications -Importance of Feelings in Counselling In episode 103 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes talk about the future of counselling qualifications. Next - in 'Practice Matters' - Rory describes attachment styles. Last, the presenters discuss why we focus on feelings (as opposed to narrative/story) in counselling. Future of Counselling Qualifications (starts at 1.40 mins) The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), British Psychoanalytic Society (BPC) and UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) have together put out for consultation the SCoPEd framework. This makes proposals for the future of counselling and psychotherapy qualifications in the UK. Qualifications in this field have already changed significantly over recent years - with Rory recollecting that the practice level of qualification when he did his training 16 years ago was a level 3 diploma. It seems likely that the minimum qualification level - currently level 4 - will continue to rise over time. In many other countries, a bachelor's (or even master's) degree is already needed. SCoPEd proposes a three-tier framework for counselling and psychotherapy qualifications. It's important to remember that - even if it does go ahead - this would be introduced gradually and apply to new students, not to those who have already qualified. Just as the regulation of counselling has been discussed for many years without any significant changes implemented, the SCoPEd proposals may not occur, at least not for some time. Do have a read of the framework, and have your say: the consultation is a chance to tell the contributing bodies what you think and want. Remember too that it's important to supplement your qualification (whatever level) with continuing professional development (CPD). The Counselling Study Resource (CSR) is a great place to access this, with a wide range of lectures and other resources available for one monthly fee. Attachment Styles (starts at 11.13 mins) Rory discusses attachment styles - how we relate to others, based on our childhood experiences with our caregivers. This is a topic that is often raised in our Facebook group, where you'll find over 23,000 others involved in the world of counselling and psychotherapy. It is vital that you are aware of your own attachment style in order to be fully available to clients: if your attachment style and theirs clash in some way, this can cause difficulties unless you can recognise what is happening. For example, it could lead you to mis-attune to, withdraw from or even dismiss a client. Even if you have done personal-development work to tackle an insecure attachment style in yourself, it is easy to slip back into this when you are under stress. A handout is available on attachment styles here - or you can access it via the Handouts Vault and CSR. Importance of Feelings in Counselling (starts at 14.40 mins) The purpose of feelings in humans is self-protection: we use them to keep ourselves safe, as the part of the brain that triggers feelings ensures we react immediately to any danger. However, it can be hard to express feelings in words - and sometimes even to accept that certain feelings exist within us. Thus, we may hide them not only from others but even from ourselves, pushing them down and out of awareness. In this way, our thoughts and feelings may be out of sync with each other - we often hear clients talking in therapy about what they 'should' be thinking or feeling. Counselling can help to bring feelings into awareness, setting them free and accepting them without judgement. Once something is in awareness, we then have the ability to change it. Thus, feelings offer us a gateway to the real self. Because of the difficulties of putting feelings into words, metaphor can be a really powerful tool in counselling.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the counselling tutor podcast.

0:04.4

The must listen to podcast for students of counselling and psychotherapy.

0:10.6

Here are your hosts, Rory Lise Oakes and Ken Kelly.

0:15.9

Hi, I'm Rory and with me as always is Ken. How are you doing Ken?

0:20.0

I am exceptionally well. This is episode

0:22.0

103 of the counselling tutor podcast and what can you expect in today's episode. Well, we're

0:28.1

going to be kicking off looking at the future of counselling qualifications. Where is that road

0:34.5

leading to? How might future counselling qualifications change?

0:38.8

And I know you've got a lot to share with us on that one, Rory.

0:41.7

Then we're going into practice matters with Rory where today you're going to be speaking about

0:47.4

counsellor and client attachment styles, Rory.

0:51.6

Absolutely.

0:52.4

I'm going to be talking about why it's so important to understand your own attachment

0:56.6

style.

0:57.5

So when we work with clients, we don't collide with their attachment style.

1:02.6

Super important.

1:03.5

And one thing I think that's sometimes missing in Council of Education, sometimes I think there's

1:10.0

not enough emphasis put on that

1:11.5

because it can have quite a big impact on the therapeutic relationship. Definitely. And there's

1:16.0

going to be a free download for that, which will give you more details on later. So you're going to

1:19.8

stick around for Rory's super duper download on attachment styles. And then we're going to be

1:25.0

ending episode 103 by looking at why we work as counsellors

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