I miss the

I miss the Cambridge recording studio

the dark hovel

that you used to be in.

Yeah, I think we've recorded in every single place I've lived in

yeah, since my start at Cambridge.

So I was living in this, yeah, it was a hovel,

like the smallest dwelling I'd ever lived in.

Smaller than the barracks in the Air Force, believe it or not. It was the shoebox. And it was such a step-down, like I, because when I was living in New Haven in undergrad, like I was getting a stipend from the GI Bill, I had a pretty nice apartment. It was spacious, high ceilings, but Cambridge required all the postgrad students for their first year to live in their, in their college. And I was like, oh, you know, it's Cambridge. It's going to be grand. It's going to be Hogwarts. And I get there. And it's a shoebox with a, like, a single bed and a tiny little desk. And that's where you and I recorded the first one for modern wisdom. Well, it's, it's, I think it's very important for you to keep your feet on the ground. I don't need you get too big for your boots. Published author, tons of books sold, very highly followed on substack. Remember where you came from, a hovel in Cambridge. Yeah, that's what I tell people, you know, when I was at Cambridge struggling, you know, sleeping in that 12 by 12 prison cell. But yeah, yeah, yeah, now I finally have the background. The foster care system had nothing on this. The foster care system was a walk in the park. The, no, no, I'd always like this when I, when I would watch other podcast guests and they had, you know, the beautiful background

with the books and everything. I'm working my way up to that. This is like stage one. Eventually I'll

have, you know, the fucking the grand library behind me. Yeah, one step at a time. What do you make of

this is having a boyfriend cringe now article? Yeah, that was going around. So I first came across that Vogue magazine article.

It was a reel on Instagram and someone was commenting on it. And then I saw that this

magazine article is having a boyfriend embarrassing. I had inspired, you know, a thousand Instagram

reels, TikTok, all these commentaries.

And so I went back and read the actual piece.

It was a striking headline.

And, you know, the first thing it made me think of was intracultural competition.

Because as I'm reading this article, the author, you know, she's talking about, you know, influencers and podcasts hosts, these women with a lot of influence and status. And they're talking about how,

you know, they try to not talk about their boyfriends that much, or they try to discourage

other women from entering relationships, this idea of heterophatalism.

But of course, like the funny thing to me was these women themselves are in relationships.

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