#1 Divorce Judge Exposes Cheaters, Liars & How to Know if it’s Love or a Lie | Judge Lynn Toler - PT 1

Women of Impact

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Society & Culture, Relationships, Education

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🗓️ 29 October 2025

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Part 1 In this compelling first half of a two-part Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu welcomes the legendary Judge Lynn Toler, the longest-serving judge on Divorce Court, for a candid, no-nonsense conversation about the truths of relationships. Judge Lynn, renowned for her unfiltered wisdom and emotional intelligence, draws from her 14 years on the bench to reveal the patterns, pitfalls, and powerful dynamics that shape why we choose to love, cheat, stay, or leave. Get ready for an engaging game of "Men vs. Women: Who's More Likely?" as Judge Lynn uncovers surprising truths about cheating, forgiveness, snooping, and lying… from both genders. They break down why women often feel trapped in unhealthy relationships, the difference between emotional and physical affairs, and the impact of social media on modern romance. Here's exactly what we dive into: How men and women rationalize infidelity differently The deeper needs that lead women to seek attention outside a relationship The evolution of cheating in the age of social media Who’s more likely to snoop through a partner’s phone? Who's more likely to forgive a cheater? Why women secretly plot their exits and why men may not see it coming Using the court system for revenge How friendships and community help women rebuild Why “feeding the marriage” is crucial Daily habits that build long-term intimacy Serial cheaters… from “I make the money, I make the rules” to lack of impulse control Peace Over Violence helps women get out of dangerous relationships: https://www.peaceoverviolence.org/ Thank you to our sponsors: Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com OneSkin: 15% off code LISA at https://oneskin.co True Classic: Upgrade your wardrobe at https://trueclassic.com/impact Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa Follow Judge Lynn Toler: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RealJudgeLynn Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realjudgelynnii FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What up ladies? I'm Lisa Billu and this is Women in Impact and if you've ever asked yourself,
0:07.3	why the hell am I in this relationship again? Or you're wondering, have you just settled? Is this
0:11.9	somebody that's just super comfortable? Or are you actually compatible? Or do you actually have the
0:16.3	chemistry and the connection? Any of those questions, then this episode is for you and you're not going to want to miss it because being in a relationship that is the wind under your wings, oh my God, you can saw so high. But if you're in a relationship where the person is dead white, it ends up if you're in the ocean, you end up drowning. So if you're with someone who maybe has lied, cheated or makes you feel like you're maybe the crazy one, that isn't then just about heartbreak, it's actually about identifying our self-worth. And that's also, guys, why I cover so much of this content. Because when I look at what is the thing that takes our confidence away, it's when you've been in this toxic dynamic. Like, no matter what that dream is that you want, you want to build a business,
0:54.8	you want to change your life, you want to have kids and stop that career, you want to marry someone
0:59.3	who other people don't approve of. Like whatever is that thing that you really want in life,
1:04.2	what's holding you back? It's so often that we don't believe we're good enough or we don't
1:08.5	believe that we have the confidence. And that all comes to self-fricking worth.
1:13.8	And that is why today's episode is so important.
1:17.4	Because no one understands how crazy you can feel in the toxic relationship.
1:21.6	Then today's guest, the divorce judge Lynn Toller.
1:26.4	Guys, she's the longest serving judge on divorce court.
1:29.2	But over 14 years, she's seen every form of manipulation, every form of betrayal and emotional
1:35.9	warfare that you can even possibly imagine. And she's not just dropping truth bombs. She's
1:40.7	actually given us the damn blueprint of how to deactivate those truth bombs.
1:45.5	So in this episode, I actually talked to her about who's more likely? Who's more likely to do
1:50.3	this toxic behavior, a man and a woman? And I start listing them and oh my God, she actually
1:55.2	shocked me with her answers. So we go over who's more likely to figure Vichita? And why is that
2:00.5	a big freaking trap for them?
2:02.7	We also talk about one silent tactic that women use when we're secretly planning to leave.
2:07.7	And this comes from protective mechanisms.
2:10.0	This goes so much deeper, so you're not going to want to miss that.
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