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Counselling Tutor

087 – Counselling Self Harm Clients

Counselling Tutor

Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes

Education, Courses

4.6636 Ratings

🗓️ 22 September 2018

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

In episode 87 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes look at the complex issue of self-harm. In 'Practice Matters', Rory describes how to 'shrink' people. Last, the presenters provide guidance on looking for a counselling placement. Self-Harm (starts at 2.58 mins) Rory describes a study on self-harm that was reported by the British Medical Journal, a high-quality UK periodical for the medical profession. This research found that there has been a sharp rise in self-harm for girls aged 13 to 16 since 2011. Self-harm is a prevalent issue that it is important to be aware of as a counsellor. It could affect a client directly (if they self-harm) or indirectly (if they have a friend or family member who does so). Self-harm can take various forms, for example cutting with sharp objects, biting, poisoning or trichotillomania (hair-pulling). Above all, it is important to show the client compassion, empathy and understanding, accepting them as they are and not telling them they must stop. In the past, this was far from the case, with A&E practitioners even stitching such wounds without anaesthetic as a way of deterring self-harm. Exploring with the client what they get from self-harming is key. For example, self-harm may be a cry for help, a distraction from emotional pain, or an attempt to have control over something when other things feel out of control. Other people gain satisfaction from seeing blood. Self-harm may go in a cycle, for example from cutting to feeling remorse to feeling better to cutting again. The client may be most likely to approach a counsellor for help during the remorse part of this cycle. Last but not least, consider the physical-health implications of self-harm. The damage may be concealed under clothing and could be infected. Safe self-harming practices may be useful - for example, Rory suggests putting an elastic band on the wrist and flicking it to cause pain (as this is much less likely to cause serious harm). There will be a new lecture coming to the Counselling Study Resource (CSR) later this academic year on self-harm. Useful Links Podcast and research from The British Medical Journal on interpreting the research findings of self-harm in young people Support for parents and carers (also useful for counsellors) NHS accessing support for those who are self-harming 'Shrinking' People (starts at 18.17 mins) By 'shrinking' people, Rory refers to reducing the significance of people who have caused harm in the past. He describes seeing a frail old man shopping and realising he was a teacher who - in his youth - hurt him with painful corporal punishment. It helped Rory to reconceptualise the athletic young teacher as his current 'shrunken' form. Similarly, an adult who was abused as a child may feel that their abuser is still larger than them (as of course they were at the time). Part of the role of a counsellor is to help clients see themselves as they are in the here and now, and so help them not feel overwhelmed by difficult figures from the past. Rory offers a range of tips on how to work with a client who feels vulnerable when talking about a past abuser in the counselling room. These are detailed on his handout, which can be downloaded here and is also available in the Handouts Vault and CSR. Smart Placement Searching (starts at 25.17 mins) Getting a counselling placement can feel daunting, but it doesn't need to be with Ken and Rory's hints on how to be smart in your search. After all, it's important not just to find a placement but to find the right placement for you. Here's how you can do this: Ask your tutor for advice: colleges should have close links with local counselling agencies. Find out when second-year students are likely to be around, and introduce yourself, asking where they are doing their placements. Google 'charities counselling [place name]', inserting your location,

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Counseling Tutor Podcast.

0:04.4

The must listen to podcast for students of counselling and psychotherapy.

0:10.6

Here are your hosts, Rory Lee's Oaks and Ken Kelly.

0:15.8

Hello and welcome to the counselling tutor podcast with me, Rory Lee's Oaks.

0:20.3

And with you as always,

0:21.4

the countertransference to my transference, Mr. Ken Kelly, how are you doing today? I'm exceptionally

0:27.0

well. Thank you very much for asking, Rory. How do you find yourself today? I find myself wet.

0:32.5

I've just been outside and it's counseling towers is absolutely immersed in water. It's raining,

0:38.4

raining, raining. Like it. Well, we is absolutely immersed in water. It's raining, raining, raining.

0:39.7

Like it.

0:42.6

Well, we don't have a wet episode today.

0:44.9

In fact, we have an important episode.

0:50.2

And I think maybe an episode that I would like to ask right at the top of this episode that you might share with your peers, students on counselling courses, but not just that

0:55.8

actually practicing counselors. It's important topics that we're covering today, specifically the

1:01.2

first topic that we're going to be opening with, and that is self-harm. This has been in the news

1:06.0

quite a lot recently. There is definitely a rise in the reporting or the identification of self-harm

1:13.2

and Rory and I are going to be speaking about that and giving you some really good links to

1:18.5

some further training, research and reading that you can do. Going into practice matters,

1:24.4

now this is an exciting one because I'm reading from my clipboard

1:27.8

and today practice matters. Now practice matters is basically where we take important stuff

1:33.0

that links into the practice when we're actually in with the client. We're going to be talking

1:37.2

about shrinking people. So I have this picture in my mind, Rory, of you wheeling in the shrinking

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