In this episode, Trauma Informed EMDR therapist, Aundi Kolber joins Jessi to share what it means to try softer in a world that tells us to keep going, keep hustling and keep pretending we're fine. Aundi shares tangible tools to practice self compassion and feel more grounded in our everyday lives.    In this episode: How Aundi got into this line of work The difference between talk therapy and what Aundi likes to use both personally and professionally to heal Aundi shares what EMDR is: Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing  How trauma can get stuck in our nervous system and how to reprocess it so your body and brain can reintegrate  How a trauma response can sometimes look like over accommodating for other people Aundi shares what ‘try softer’ truly means and how it came to be Aundi shares basic neurobiology about our body What happens to our prefrontal cortex when we’re in our window of tolerance The practice of learning to be at home within your body Aundi explains what little ‘t’ trauma or interpersonal trauma is and what BIG 'T' trauma is How some of our behaviors that we might not like have served a purpose in the past Aundi opens up about her own struggles with disordered eating and where it came from How we go into fight, flight or freeze mode if something is beyond our capacity  Aundi shares how important curiosity + compassion is in healing The “I am aware” tool that Aundi uses with her clients A self compassion practice that Aundi uses How to bring self compassion and non judgment into your awareness Using our emotions as information rather than sinking into guilt and shame   Links: Instagram Website Try Softer Book   Join me for The Food Freedom Online Program. This class is for those who know they want to improve their relationship with food and their body, but are afraid of spiraling out-of-control and want a proven, step-by-step system to go from feeling crazy around food to normal again! You can either live your life at war with your mind or learn to work in sync with it. If you’re ready to work in sync with your mind and evolve your life, welcome to The Dear Body Podcast! Our mission is to help driven women have an easy and effortless relationship with food and unshakeable self-confidence in their own body. Make sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode & learn more about us here!