07: How breakups and endings lead to breakthroughs
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 4 November 2015
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
Do you know that every challenge you face presents an amazing opportunity for healing and growth? That is why I am so passionate about Expectation Hangovers - because they are doorways to transformation.
We do not want to relate to Expectation Hangovers as victims because it prevents us from leveraging the learnings! Disappointment happens FOR you, not TO you.
Expectation Hangovers teach us:
1. Control is an illusion
2. Our comfort zone is a trap
3. True fulfillment comes from inside
4. The Universe does not punish us
My call with Nadine is about overcoming the Expectation Hangover of a job loss and breakup We explore why we put pressure on ourselves to not make mistakes and how our past is able to influence us even though we may not recognize it.
Remember, if you point your compass towards spirituality and honor your feelings, you can use your soul's inner wisdom to learn to love and to heal yourself. The door of opportunity exists for you to heal and transform after you experience an Expectation Hangover.
Consider/Ask Yourself:
What am I learning?
What am I healing?
What is my outer experience teaching me about my inner reality?
Can I relate to putting a lot of pressure on myself?
Do I think there is something I need to do to be loved or worthy?
Do I have negative self-talk which perpetuates high expectations of myself?
Nadine's Question:
In February, Nadine was working her dream job and she had the perfect man. Now four months later, she finds herself in a new job she is not interested in and her man left.
Nadine's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She may be looking at herself as a home improvement project
● She engages in negative self-talk
● She has the same relationship over and over again
● Her childhood is not her fault
How to get over it and on with it:
● Ask your inner counselor what am I learning
● Ask yourself "in order to be loved I need to"
● What would you say to yourself as a child?
● Take a deep dive into your spiritual practice
Tools and Takeaways:
● Spend some time single and fall in love with yourself
● Write down "In order to be loved, I need" and then finish the sentence
● Talk to your younger self and reassure them
● Practice self-care by nurturing yourself
● Allow yourself to feel your own emotions with compassion
● Understand you are not broken and become who you truly want to be
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host Christine Hasler and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author. |
| 0:10.0 | Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. |
| 0:16.0 | I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. |
| 0:22.0 | Now let's get on with the episode. |
| 0:24.0 | Hello, hello everybody and welcome back. I am just so glad to have you here |
| 0:34.4 | listening to this podcast. |
| 0:36.4 | And I'm just so excited to be doing this. |
| 0:38.7 | It's been about two years now, I think, |
| 0:40.7 | that I wanted to start a life coaching podcast I had the idea about two years ago |
| 0:45.6 | and you know at first it was kind of fear that stopped me especially the technology part and |
| 0:51.9 | then it was just time and anyway we all come up with our reasons for why it's |
| 0:56.2 | not time and often there's just divine timing for when the appropriate time for things to really |
| 1:01.1 | launch is but for me I knew that it had to be this year and every year I set a personal |
| 1:06.9 | physical and professional goal for myself and this year my professional goal was launching this podcast. |
| 1:14.5 | And so I'm so happy that it's out there. |
| 1:16.6 | I'm so happy that you're loving it and it's serving you. |
| 1:19.0 | And like I said, I just love doing it. |
| 1:21.6 | I love life coaching so much. I love the opportunity. I just be with |
| 1:25.0 | be with someone as they're going through an insight and aha |
| 1:31.0 | a challenge and I really feel like the divine uses me in this way and so thank you. |
| 1:37.4 | Thank you for your support and thank you for giving me the opportunity to make one of my dreams come true. |
| 1:43.0 | So in this session with Nadine that you're about to hear, |
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