06: You Have an Expectation Hangover, Now What?
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
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🗓️ 4 November 2015
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
This call is for all you do-ers and over-achievers out there.
We find ourselves in a time in which we wear our busyness like a badge of honor. We define ourselves by what we do. And when something we define ourselves by, such as a job, goes away we find ourselves with an Expectation Hangover.
An Expectation Hangover is disappointment. It's when one of three things happen:
1.) Something doesn't turn out like we planned
2.) Something does turn out like we planned, but we don't get the feeling we thought we would have
3.) Life just throws us an unexpected curveball
My coaching session with Lisa today uncovers her Expectation Hangover as a huge opportunity for her to just be.
If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, contact me at christinehassler.com
Consider/Ask Yourself:
Can you relate to being busy all the time?
Do you often use busyness as a distraction?
Do you panic during times when you aren't busy?
Do you have a busy life, but not a fulfilled life?
Is it challenging to receive loving support, including financial support from a family member?
Are you paying attention to all the things which are going right for you when you experience an expectation hangover?
Lisa's Question:
Lisa feels she has accomplished a great deal this year. She completed her MBA, got married and will soon be moving to a new city. During her job search, she is encountering some rejection and the disappointment that goes along with it.
Lisa's Key Insights and Aha's:
● She kept herself busy as a distraction
● She relies on herself too much
● She doesn't have to handle so many things on her own
● She has her worthiness attached to having a job
How to get over it and on with it:
● Ask yourself what am I learning during this expectation hangover?
● Surround yourself with your soul friends and family
● Give yourself full permission to relax and let go
● Break up with the idea that you are what you do
● Press pause on the goal line and re-orient yourself to the soul line
Tools and Takeaways:
● Give yourself permission to stop chasing results
● Get a copy of Expectation Hangover and work through the exercises and guided meditations
● Ask someone for support
● Take some quiet time for yourself
● Make an agreement with yourself to just be
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host Christine Hasler and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author. |
| 0:10.0 | Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. |
| 0:16.0 | I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. |
| 0:22.0 | Now let's get on with the episode. |
| 0:24.0 | Hello everybody and welcome back. I'm so happy to have you here and this is a great call for all |
| 0:36.8 | you doers out there and I think that pretty much means everybody. I mean we just live in a time when being busy is like a |
| 0:46.3 | badge of honor and even though we want to just be you know we want peace of mind |
| 0:51.1 | we want to relax we want to be present. We just tend to do, do, do, do, and define ourselves by what we do. |
| 0:59.3 | And when we define ourselves by what is |
| 1:07.0 | we do when some kind of doing activity such as a job goes away we often find ourselves with a big |
| 1:07.3 | old expectation hangover. |
| 1:09.4 | What is an expectation hangover? |
| 1:10.8 | Well a lot of you probably know that have been with me a while but if you |
| 1:13.6 | don't it's disappointment it's when one of three things happen either something |
| 1:18.7 | doesn't turn out like we planned or something does turn out like we plan we we get the result that we went for, but we don't have the feeling that we thought it would give us, |
| 1:27.0 | or life just throws us an unexpected curveball. |
| 1:30.0 | And in this week's call, Lisa, who I'll be coaching, is dealing with an expectation hangover around not having a job. |
| 1:38.0 | And as you see when we'll go through this call, this actually is presenting her with a huge window of opportunity to just be. |
| 1:47.8 | So as you listen to this call, I want you to consider a few things. Can you relate to being busy, busy, busy, busy all the time? Do you |
| 1:56.8 | often use busyness as a distraction? So much so that if you really stop and think about who you are independent of any roles you play in life, job descriptions, things you do, how would you answer that question? |
| 2:12.0 | Do you panic during times when you aren't busy, when you feel like you aren't |
| 2:17.0 | doing enough? Would you say you have a very busy life but not a very full life in terms of being fulfilled. |
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