meta_pixel
Tapesearch Logo
Log in
The Mark Groves Podcast

#028: Why She Can’t Feel You with Traver Boehm

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Society & Culture, Relationships

4.95K Ratings

🗓️ 26 May 2019

⏱️ 78 minutes

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Traver Boehm is the leader of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. He coaches, leads, writes, speaks and trains men in the art of connection to self. This week I was honoured to hear Traver’s personal story, how his life completely transformed when he lost his marriage, his business partnership and in the process almost his mind. But far from it, he has come to champion the revolution for men to connect to their most authentic self and redefine their inner masculinity. Episode Highlights 9 mins - The two ends of the masculinity continuum - The Marlboro Man versus the Nice Guy. 10 mins - Why do we stick it out with emotional robots? Everyone says they want a ‘conscious’ man, but are they actually ready? 14 mins - Integrating the masculine and feminine, boundaries, trust, sexuality and safety. 19 mins - When a woman can’t connect to her partner, when “she can’t feel you”. 30 mins - Therapy vs coaching, Traver’s first experience with couples therapy. 33 mins - Traver’s divorce and rockbottom breakthrough. 43 mins - Traver’s journey through the spiritual - The Year To Live Project. 55 mins - Breaking through to authenticity. 1hr 10mins - Traver's experience in hospices. Episode Notes Traver Boehm Instagram The UNcivilized Movement Make Pain Your Guru TED talk Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0

Hello, what's going on. It is nice to have you back.

0:18.4

Bonjour. Come on. Ola. Come on sa va. Ola.

0:21.8

Come on sta.

0:24.4

I mean, my Spanish is super limited, so it's stopping there.

0:30.8

My French, though, I did go to French immersion school, and my mom wanted us when we were kids to learn another language.

0:33.2

She speaks like, I don't know, seven languages or something.

0:38.9

And she wanted us to learn another language, not only to be able to bridge ourselves internationally but also to stretch our minds to go outside of our myopic you know very um self-focused

0:47.1

culture that we can have sometimes you know i found this very fascinating when we travel to

0:52.0

other countries we sort of are like, oh, you don't

0:54.9

speak English. This is at least true in my experience of, you know, being a Canadian and traveling

0:59.7

the sort of like narrative that we travel with is like, oh, they don't speak English. Maybe we should

1:05.4

learn their language since we're in their home, God forbid, right? And I think that's really such a bridge to so many things,

1:12.5

which is learning things that are challenging for us, but also not expecting people to always

1:19.1

meet us where we are and sitting on this pious throne of, this is what I think, this is what I

1:25.5

believe, this is where I'm at, come to me versus let's

1:30.4

grow and expand towards each other. And every opposing belief is really about expanding your

1:37.0

own belief in order to integrate and just understand another. To understand someone's point

1:42.3

of view, you don't have to agree with it. And that's,

1:44.8

we're in a real polarizing time where two people can't be right at the same time. And in relationship,

1:51.4

in conflict, it's so important that we can recognize that our partner can be right, but we

1:58.0

might not agree with them. Because two people can experience the same thing

2:02.0

very differently, especially when we experience something like a conflict, we usually bring so much

...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Mark Groves, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Mark Groves and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.

Copyright © Tapesearch 2026.