#024: The Trauma of Infidelity with Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Society & Culture, Relationships

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 1 May 2019

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is one of the world’s most preeminent relationship researchers. Along with her husband Dr. John Gottman, they run the Gottman Institute, who have conducted many of the world’s most extensive studies on marital stability. This week we delve straight into trauma, including Dr. Gottman’s previous trauma work, the trauma of infidelity, and the Gottman therapy related to this trauma. Lastly, we discuss their latest book - Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. What is it that makes a good relationship and how do good relationships benefit us? Podcast Highlights: 5mins - Julie’s background in trauma research and her journey to the Gottman Institute. 14mins - Trauma, what is it? What does it do to us? What does it feel like? 21mins - The healing power of connection. 25mins - The Gottman’s couples conflict resolution approach - what questions do you need to ask your partner? 32mins - Cheating, infidelity and the trauma in betrayal. 36mins - Therapy for infidelity, the three-stage process. 41mins - What often leads to infidelity? 50mins - Eight Dates, the Gottman’s newest book on dating and relationships in their initial phases. Podcast Details: The Gottman Institute Eight Dates - Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The Gottman Institute Instagram Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:31.1	to be able to teach us on our journeys, you know, to improve how we show up in relationship
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1:38.8	Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman. Okay, if you have had any interest in relationships in any way before you
1:47.3	came to my podcast or my Instagram at Create the Love, then you've heard the name Gottman. I mean,
1:53.8	the Gottman's, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman and her husband, John Gottman, are relationship, I mean,
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