As human beings, we all have universal needs. Like we all identify with universal human needs.

Our needs motivate our behavior. And we're all doing the best we know how in any given moment

to get our needs met. Our needs are the direct cause of our feelings. So if I can express a universal unmet need, then maybe the person

I'm in conflict with can relate to that need. Maybe they felt it before. And they can consider

what they can do to show up and help meet my needs. And as humans, I mean, it's so beautiful,

but we all have this desire to really contribute

to the needs of others. Like we're wired this way. We're wired for connection. But if we're being

attacked and we're being accused, we're not in a position to contribute positively to the other person.

You know, what we really need in that moment is empathy. What we really

need in that moment is compassion and being heard, and that's what the other person needs too.

So we want to be able to create a space in communication for both parties' needs to be met

and both parties needs to be heard. And it doesn't mean we agree, but we can empathize with universal needs.

You know, by communicating from this perspective rather than criticizing we're so much more likely

to get those needs met and create the space of compassion instead of conflict.

Welcome back to the Motherhood podcast, a live workshop style podcast that is helping thousands

of moms redefine their motherhood journey.

There was a point in my life when I was trying to do all the things, parent my kids,

pour into my marriage, run a busy law practice, keep up my home.

And what I found was that I was on the fast track to burnout until I discovered a better way.

Now I help women just like you to close the gap between their vision of motherhood

and what they're actually experiencing in their day-to-day lives.

Together, we'll explore when and where to simplify, systemize, and surrender.

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