Porn Free Radio episode 19. Welcome to Porn Free Radio. I'm Matt Dobshootschutz. This is the podcast for people who want to live 100% porn free. Today's episode's called My Wife Caught Me Looked Me Looking at Porn, Now What? It's how to talk to your wife about your porn habit.

And believe me, this podcast is based on real life experience of myself working through this with my wife.

Now I titled it, my wife caught me looking at porn, now what?

Partly because I remember the first kind of time when my wife caught me actually looking at porn and the days that followed.

And just all the things that I had to go through then.

But I also am aware of there's other times in our marriage where I've had to confess that I've relapsed.

And we have to be honest about our porn habit.

We have to be honest about our relapses with our wife.

I got an email recently from someone who was still struggling with the idea of talking to his

wife about his porn addiction.

And, you know, I'm not saying that you have to do it right away, but ultimately, for the good

of your marriage, for the good of your wife, and for the good of yourself,

you need to start entering into an honest dialogue with your wife about your struggle.

And the reason for this is, you know, our first temptation is always to hide and try and make ourselves look better.

But our goal here with our wives is to really gain their trust, to really rebuild trust,

to really dig in and have a healthier, more intimate, honest relationship. And so withholding or minimizing or not telling

them will not give us what we truly want. Think about it. If you were going before a judge for

crimes you committed and he offered you a full pardon.

You would only be able to receive the full pardon if you fully confessed.

Otherwise, you'd still be liable for the crimes that didn't come to light.

So, for example, if you were, you know, caught stealing and the judge offered a full pardon,

if you didn't tell everything that you stole, then he would only pardon what he knew.

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